Reading an article in Times life dated Sept, 9th
2012 I thought this should be shared with you all. I request all my readers to
give this article a thought and do share in form of comments what you all feel.
We all live in the fear of world laughing at us. In German,
the word is “schadenfreude” meaning “the pleasure one derives from misfortune
of others”. We mistake it to be our good soul’s empathy which is in reality the
pleasure. When one slips in a mall it is not the physical fall that hurts us.
It is rather the amusing stares people give to you that make us lose our
self-control.
There are many feelings and emotions we want others to feel
about us but amusement at our expense is certainly not on the list. The
opposite of “schadenfreude” is the Buddhist concept of “mudita” meaning “Happiness
in the fortune of others”.
If we look back even as kids we tried to manipulate the way
world looked at us. As simple as crying aloud with no tears in eyes meant our
wishes to be fulfilled: P Well such is the significance attached to it.
Now coming to the centre stage. Each one of us desire and
want others to feel and know certain things about us. Talking about me I would
want people to know and consider that I am a Frank person. Do not expect me to
be one of those wonderful actors who can pretend to be happy when they are not
or find the conversation amusing when it is not really. My expression says it
on the face that “Dude! Your company is boring” or “you do not know your
subject. Don’t try to fool around!” Although these days I am trying to avoid
being so explicit because soon it’s going to be the management world I’ll be
stepping into.
Secondly, I am the weirdest creature who is lost between
practicality and emotions J
Clearly I do not like interference in my personal life from people who are “nothing
more than strangers”. Let’s talk business and end it there. At the same time I want
my close ones to understand that I am not devoid of emotions. Honestly I am much
more emotional than people around me expect from me.
Next I hate gossips. I do not want people to talk at my back
of something which is not true. So I do not like doing the same with others. I
have enough in my life to keep me engaged. So please do not expect me to smile
back at you and update you with 10other stories.
Lastly I cannot stay long without spending time alone. Some
people prefer retrospecting while talking to others. Some want to do it alone. I fall in the
latter category. This brings to the
surface the fact that I keep certain things only to myself. I cannot share it
with the closest person also. So far people close to me have respected and
accepted that and I owe a “thank you” to them. Well who they are, they know it!
So dear blog friends, what is on your list that people
around should know, take care of and accept??? In every individual’s book there
are a few things that cannot be stated to people around every time but you want
them to consider.
